It’s normal to have quarrels and arguments when sharing your life with someone. However, how do the couples who rarely argue cope? How can these people live day in and day out without getting under each other’s skin?
Many couples always fight and sometimes turn to abusive language and behaviors to vent their rage. When you get to the crux of the issue, many times, it’s just taking out your anger on the one closest to you.
If you want a better relationship with your partner, then you can mimic the actions of those relationships that have stood the test of time. What do the couples who beat the divorce rates and remain best friends decades later do that is so right?
Here are some of the most common habits of those who have few arguments:
1. Don’t let the sun go down on your wrath
An old rule for marriage is that you should never go to bed angry. If you have an issue, at least make a pact to discuss it in the morning. Things are always better once you’ve slept on them, but you want to make sure that things are good before you close your eyes.
2. Turn to each other not against one another
It’s effortless to take your frustrations out on the ones closest to you. Rather than turning away from your partner, you need to run to them with your hurts and problems. Let them help you, and never hurt the one who is there for you when you need them most.
3. Never keep secrets
Secrets will cause quarrels and ruin your relationship. Even if it’s painful, you need to make sure you tell your spouse everything.
4. Don’t lie
When you start telling lies and hiding things from your spouse, then you’re asking for trouble. A half-truth is a whole lie, and it’s the stuff that puts wedges between your love as well as causes arguments.
5. Keep the lines of communication open
When you stop communicating with each other, then you’re allowing doubt to creep in. Make time to talk each day, even if it’s just for a few minutes. It will help you stay connected and know what’s going on in each other’s life.
6. Always make time for each other
Life is busy, and there are times where you meet yourself coming and going. However, quarrels will occur when you’re not spending quality time with one another. Outside of work and children, your spouse is of the utmost importance.
7. Have girls/guys night out
It’s great to spend time with each other, but you also need to spend time with your friends too. Don’t deny the other person time out with their buddies. If you want to keep the quarrels to a minimum, then spending some time apart can help.
8. Don’t stop dating
Even if you’ve been together for 50 years, you should never stop dating. Make sure you have a favorite restaurant, movie theater, and places that are special to the two of you.